DIRS.INFO The most relevant business & tech news

☆ A viral conspiracy theory on TikTok says nice people don’t get promoted. But experts disagree
▼ + stars: | 2024-04-30 | by ( Sawdah Bhaimiya | ) www.cnbc.com time to read: +5 min

One viral TikTok has young workers up in arms about the perils of being pleasant in the workplace. A TikToker who goes by the name Jacqueline recently posted a TikTok video where she claimed that people who are "a pleasure to work with" will "never get promoted." She added: "You will never be promoted out of a hardworking more junior position where a lot of the hard work exists ... There's a lot of benefits to being other-oriented like we like nice people and we do nice things for those people," he added. 'Pleasant people don't bend over backwards'In Jacqueline's TikTok video, she conflates having a pleasant personality with being a pushover, according to Vogel.

Persons: Jacqueline, Cameron Anderson, Andrew Brodsky, Brodsky, Ryan Vogel, Vogel Organizations: Haas School of Business, University of California, University of Texas, McCombs School of Business, CNBC, Chinese University of Hong, University of Iowa, Purdue University, Fox School of Business, Management, Temple University Locations: Berkeley, Chinese University of Hong Kong, agreeableness

☆ Opinion: It’s time to change the way we think about sociopaths
▼ + stars: | 2024-04-20 | by ( Opinion Sara Stewart | ) edition.cnn.com time to read: +7 min

CNN —This piece contains mild spoilers for the Netflix series “Ripley” and a scene in the movie “Civil War.”Are we finally ready to take another look at why we love to hate sociopaths so much? But his rendition of Ripley – highly capable, chameleonic, but never what you’d call charming — represents a refreshing take on one of the most famous sociopaths in literature and film. Gagne feels Hollywood’s nearly always gotten it wrong with portrayals of sociopaths, reducing them to a collection of cartoonish, villainous traits. In fact, I found one of film’s most recent sociopaths to be singularly chilling because of his very plausibility. He’s in Alex Garland’s “Civil War,” the polarizing film about a vaguely-sketched conflict set in the modern-day United States.

Persons: Sara Stewart, Ripley ”, Sara Stewart Todd Thompson, Andrew Scott’s, Tom Ripley, Patricia Highsmith’s, Scott, who’s, Ripley –, Steven Zaillian’s, “ Ripley, Jennifer Rubin, ”, Rubin, Tony Soprano, Walter White, Patrick Bateman, Dexter Morgan, Don Draper, I’ve, Emily Nussbaum, Norman Lear’s “, Archie Bunker, Carroll O’Connor, Penn Badgley, Joe Goldberg, Sociopath, Patric Gagne, Gagne, Hollywood’s, vilify, Jenna Ortega, Alex Garland’s “, Jesse Plemons —, —, Owen Gleiberman’s, “ Garland, ” Gleiberman, Ripley, sociopathy, we’ll Organizations: CNN, Netflix, Washington, Vogue Locations: Pennsylvania, ”, United States, America

☆ Kevin McCarthy is haunting Mike Johnson
▼ + stars: | 2024-04-20 | by ( Brent D. Griffiths | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +5 min

House Speaker Mike Johnson can blame his problems on his predecessor, former Speaker Kevin McCarthy. Anyone may have struggled to wrangle this slim Republican majority. He offered three seats on the powerful House Rules Committee to more conservative members. The Rules Committee keeps the House moving, but Johnson has been forced to maneuver around it in the face of likely opposition to major bills. AdvertisementFormer House Speaker Newt Gingrich summed up Johnson's reality rather grimly.

Persons: Mike Johnson, Kevin McCarthy, McCarthy, Johnson, Matt Gaetz, McCarthy's, Marjorie Taylor Greene, Tom Cole, Cole, We've, George Santos, Santos, Newt Gingrich, it's, he's, Gingrich Organizations: Republican, California Republican, Caucus, Florida Republican, Georgia Republican, Speaker's, Democrats, Pentagon, Oklahoma Republican, Politico, GOP, CNN, Republicans, Rep Locations: California, Florida, Georgia, Oklahoma

☆ When I stopped drinking, dating felt totally different. In sobriety, I had to be more vulnerable.
▼ + stars: | 2024-04-09 | by ( Evan Lambert | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +5 min

When I went sober six years ago, dating and getting laid was the last thing on my mind. After all, I'd gone sober for a reason: to self-optimize, and I couldn't do that with a man snoring in my ear. It felt like alcohol and I had always been in an open relationship, but now it was time for me to fly solo. Don't obsess over small thingsThat said, I couldn't blame all my past failures on the men I'd dated. Talking to men sober felt like doing it for the first time.

Persons: I'd, I'd pined, —, pesky, I'm, Evan Lambert, he's, Evan Lambert Be Organizations: Service Locations: New York City

☆ How to Deal With a Narcissist
▼ + stars: | 2024-03-28 | by ( Elisabeth Egan | More About Elisabeth Egan | ) www.nytimes.com time to read: +2 min

“Narcissist” is a word many of us throw around casually, using it to describe anyone from an energy vampire to a friend who posts too many selfies on Instagram. But as Ramani Durvasula makes clear in her best-selling book, “It’s Not You,” the people who actually fit the bill are more complicated, wily and attention-seeking than we might imagine. Depressed people go to therapy because they’re uncomfortable with their depression; anxious people go to therapy because they’re uncomfortable with their anxiety. I want to stop that.’ That’s not the conversation.”So how does a narcissist-adjacent friend or family member navigate a relationship with someone who won’t change? It might sound like common sense, but the goal is to shift the focus away from the narcissist and onto your own well-being.

Persons: “, Durvasula, ‘, ’ That’s, ”

☆ 6 signs you may have a narcissistic boss — and what to do about it
▼ + stars: | 2023-11-17 | by ( Caitlin Taylor So | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +6 min

A narcissistic boss may brag about being above the rules and may even get aggressive. It's important to note your bad boss might not necessarily have a narcissistic personality disorder, but they can still exhibit narcissistic traits and behaviors. Here are six signs you may have a narcissistic boss or manager. Advertisement"The mantra of the narcissistic boss is that all rules are guidelines. It's not worth trying to change the narcissistic boss or attempting to get them to like you; you'll merely get more hurt in the process.

Persons: —, You've, don't, Craig Malkin, They're, Amy Morin, they're, Morin, Malkin, loath, they'll, It's, you'll, it's, isn't Organizations: Service, Harvard Medical School

☆ A GOP lawmaker frustrated by Nancy Mace's opposition to a recent spending bill texted colleagues a link to a video entitled 'How to talk to a Narcissist'
▼ + stars: | 2023-11-12 | by ( John L. Dorman | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +4 min

A GOP lawmaker texted colleagues a video he said described his feelings about her, WaPo reported. download the app Email address Sign up By clicking “Sign Up”, you accept our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy . A GOP lawmaker was so frustrated with Mace during the process that the individual sent out a link in a group text to a video entitled, "How to talk to a Narcissist," according to The Washington Post. AdvertisementAdvertisementAnother House GOP lawmaker who was included in the text thread told The Post that the linked video encapsulated his feelings about the high-profile lawmaker. "I think he meant he supported the same policy ideas as David Duke, but he wasn't David Duke, that he didn't have the same feelings about certain people as David Duke did," Grace told the newspaper at the time.

Persons: Nancy Mace, texted, WaPo, —, Kevin McCarthy of, Mace, McCarthy, Steve Scalise, Jim Jordan of, Tom Emmer, Minnesota —, David Duke, Stephanie Grace, Scalise, Grace, Mike Johnson's, We've Organizations: GOP, Service, South Carolina Republican, The Washington, Post, Republicans, CNN, New York Times, American Unity and Rights Organization Locations: Kevin McCarthy of California, Louisiana, Jim Jordan of Ohio, Minnesota, Scalise, American

☆ Harvard psychologist shares 6 toxic things 'highly narcissistic' people always do in relationships: 'Don't be fooled'
▼ + stars: | 2023-11-09 | by ( Craig Malkin | ) www.cnbc.com time to read: +3 min

To be fair, these dead giveaways don't tend to show up early on in a relationship. As a psychologist with 25 years of experience, here's my best advice for recognizing the early warning of highly narcissistic people:1. According to decades of research, such starry-eyed treatment of our partners isn't just fun — it can predict the longevity and happiness of romantic relationships. Narcissists are rigidly invested in maintaining a sense of specialness. But healthy relationships can handle a slower pace, some predictability, an appreciation of each person's uniqueness, and direct conversations about how you are feeling.

Persons: I'd, curt

☆ There are 2 styles of parenting that lead kids to become narcissistic adults, says psychologist who's treated dozens of them
▼ + stars: | 2023-08-26 | by ( Aditi Shrikant | ) www.cnbc.com time to read: +1 min

Dr. Ramani Durvasula estimates that she has treated 50 narcissists in her life. There are two parenting styles that lead a child to develop into a narcissist, Durvasula says. "There is the traumatized, neglected, poor attachment style pathway, and then there is the overindulged, spoiled child pathway," she says. "People telling their kids they are the most special and you deserve everything — no, you don't," Durvasula says. Ramani Durvasula Clinical PsychologistKids can unlearn toxic behaviors

Persons: Ramani, Durvasula, Taylor

☆ Narcissists can have healthy relationships if they're willing to spend 'six figures,' says psychologist who's worked with dozens
▼ + stars: | 2023-08-24 | by ( Aditi Shrikant | ) www.cnbc.com time to read: +7 min

Experts say the path to healthy relationships for people with NPD or narcissistic personality traits is not impossible, but it's also not easy or affordable. Especially because many insurance plans might not cover specific mental health treatments. But for someone with more demanding mental health problems, the out-of-pocket cost can make treatment prohibitive. "There is a severe shortage of mental health therapists and many don't take insurance, as insurance companies pay very little for mental health therapy," she says. There is a severe shortage of mental health therapists and many don't take insurance.

Persons: Lee Hammock, Hammock, it's, I've, Ramani, Durvasula hasn't, Durvasula, I'm, Carolyn McClanahan, Jessica MacNair Organizations: NPD, Planning Partners Locations: Los Angeles, Jacksonville , Florida

☆ 5 ways to spot a narcissist
▼ + stars: | 2023-08-22 | by ( Madeline Holcombe | ) edition.cnn.com time to read: +6 min

There are three types of narcissists, and they can be distinguished by how they go about feeling special, Malkin said. “Their achievements are better.”Covert narcissists feel special by being seen as the person suffering the greatest misfortune or misunderstanding, he added. Third, there are communal narcissists, who feel special by being seen as the most helpful person in any group. How to evaluate itNeeding to feel special often gets in the way of narcissists nurturing close relationships, Malkin said. • Exploitation, “which is doing whatever it takes no matter the cost to others in order to feel special.”• Entitlement, which is “acting as if the world should bend to their will.”• Empathy impairments, which is “to feel special compared to others.

Persons: Keith Campbell, …, ” Campbell, Craig Malkin, Malkin, “ It’s, ” Malkin, “, ”, you’ve, Covert, “ They’re, Deborah Ashway, ” Ashway Organizations: CNN, University of Georgia, Harvard Medical School Locations: Cambridge , Massachusetts, New Bern , North Carolina

☆ Opinion | Elections Are Bad for Democracy
▼ + stars: | 2023-08-21 | by ( Adam Grant | ) www.nytimes.com time to read: +2 min

In a study of elections worldwide, candidates who were rated by experts as having high psychopathy scores actually did better at the ballot box. In the United States, presidents assessed as having psychopathic and narcissistic tendencies were more persuasive with the public than their peers. A common explanation is that they’re masters of fearless dominance and superficial charm, and we mistake their confidence for competence. Sadly, it starts early: Even kids who display narcissistic personality traits get more leadership nominations and claim to be better leaders. Eliminate voting, and candidates with dark triad traits would be less likely than they are now to rise to the top.

Persons: Putin, there’s, Lincoln, They’re Locations: United States

☆ Therapy Culture Has Undermined Our Maturity - The New York Times
▼ + stars: | 2023-08-10 | by ( David Brooks | ) www.nytimes.com time to read: +1 min

In earlier cultural epochs, many people derived their self-worth from their relationship with God, or from their ability to be a winner in the commercial marketplace. But in a therapeutic culture people’s sense of self-worth depends on their subjective feelings about themselves. Do I feel good about myself? From the start, many writers noticed that this ethos often turned people into fragile narcissists. It pushed them in on themselves, made them self-absorbed, craving public affirmation so they could feel good about themselves.

Persons: Philip Rieff, Christopher Lasch, Tom Wolfe, Lasch, ” Lasch, ”

☆ How ‘gray rocking’ can protect you against narcissists
▼ + stars: | 2023-08-04 | by ( Madeline Holcombe | ) edition.cnn.com time to read: +6 min

Here is what you need to know about narcissists and how to gray rock your way out of conflict with them. It depends on what you mean by narcissist, Malkin said. In conflict, or even just in conversation, it is important to protect your sense of self and independence from narcissists, Ashway said. If the person is likely to just be a jerk, gray rocking may be very helpful. Important to remember, though, is that gray rocking is not about changing the behavior of the narcissist, Malkin said.

Persons: ” Gray, narcissists, Keith Campbell, I’ve, ” Campbell, Craig Malkin, narcissist, Malkin, Campbell, …, Covert, ”, “, you’ve, Deborah Ashway, Ashway, “ They’re, “ It’s Organizations: CNN, University of Georgia, Harvard Medical School Locations: Cambridge , Massachusetts, New Bern , North Carolina, narcissists

☆ Opinion | Robert F. Kennedy Jr. Is Where Paranoia Meets Legacy Admissions
▼ + stars: | 2023-07-20 | by ( Frank Bruni | ) www.nytimes.com time to read: +1 min

It feels dangerous to write about Robert F. Kennedy Jr.: In the lag time between when I put the finishing touches on this and when it becomes publicly available, I could be a conspiracy theory or two behind. He’s a crank who cranks out whoppers the way Taylor Swift disgorges perfect pop songs. Kennedy is where paranoia meets legacy admissions. It’s an exaggeration of inequities and injustices that really do exist, and it simplifies a maddeningly complex world. Ranting about George Soros or Anthony Fauci feels a whole lot better than raging at the vicissitudes of fate.

Persons: Robert F, Kennedy Jr, Ron DeSantis, Taylor Swift, Kennedy, Donald Trump, Kennedy peddle, George Soros, Anthony Fauci Organizations: bulldogs, Trump

☆ None of the Roy children deserve to succeed Logan but I'm hoping it's Shiv
▼ + stars: | 2023-05-28 | by ( Rebecca Knight | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +5 min

There are really no good choices for who should succeed Logan Roy in "Succession." She also fakes authenticity — a power move, one expert told Insider. The show revolves around the deeply dysfunctional Roy family and the jockeying to succeed Logan Roy, the recently deceased patriarch played by Brian Cox, as head of the family media empire, Waystar Royco, loosely based on Fox News and News Corp. "Shiv seems to be a person who gets relationships," Gino told Insider. The media baron and inspiration for Logan Roy, Rupert Murdoch, the head of News Corp, also has stirred speculation over which of his children might succeed him at the top of the home of Fox News.

☆ What Your Therapist Doesn't Tell You
▼ + stars: | 2023-05-17 | by ( Amy X. Wang | Illustrations Liana Finck | ) www.nytimes.com time to read: +8 min

What Your Therapist Doesn’t Tell You A dozen counselors on what it’s really like to sit in the other armchair. “ ‘I need to pee so bad.’ Clients don’t realize that we have five minutes between sessions and sometimes making it to the bathroom is not possible.” — Jessa White, L.M.H.C.A. You can’t do psychotherapy if a person doesn’t feel safe — there’s no way that’s going to happen. But it’s frustrating too, because as a therapist, you feel you can’t really offer what you signed up for.” — Gabriela Sehinkman, Ph.D., L.I.S.W.-S. To me, therapy is very much like dating, except, you know, obviously you don’t really want to date the person.” — Thien Pham, L.M.F.T.

☆ A psychologist shares 6 toxic phrases 'highly narcissistic' people always use—and how to deal with them
▼ + stars: | 2023-04-30 | by ( Ramani Durvasula | ) www.cnbc.com time to read: +3 min

As a psychologist who studies narcissism, I've found that, in most cases, highly narcissistic people are masters of gaslighting. Here are six phrases that they always use — and how to deal with them:1. "I don't want to make this about me, but..."Statements like this show that narcissistic people know they shouldn't dominate the conversation, yet they do it anyway. With this phrase, they're implying that your feelings are your issues alone, and that they'll take no responsibility for their behavior. "This" can be anything — maybe you want to discuss a project you're working on together or you're inviting them to a work event.

☆ I thought I was an introvert, but what if I'm just a shy narcissist instead?
▼ + stars: | 2023-03-20 | by ( Rebecca Knight | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +6 min

Insider's new work-advice column centers on a shy introvert who worries she might be a narcissist. I always thought that because I wasn't aggressive or self-aggrandizing, I couldn't possibly be a narcissist. To be clear, I'm not a professional shrink — and I'm not above getting carried away by the gospel of online personality quizzes (ahem! You're an introvert or, perhaps, a highly sensitive person, depending on the theory you subscribe to. "You might not like your manager's solution, but they may have identified a problem that you hadn't thought of.

☆ ‘Oscar Wars’ Review: Hollywood’s Biggest Night
▼ + stars: | 2023-03-10 | by ( Marc Weingarten | ) www.wsj.com time to read: +1 min

Cecil B. DeMille holds his Best Picture Oscar for “The Greatest Show on Earth” (1952). Hollywood is a nest of vipers whose public figures tend to be narcissists who behave like entitled children. Would American society have it any other way? After all, if the dream factory functioned like any other business, there would be no Academy Awards ceremony, the most glamorous spectacle of celebrity self-love ever devised. There’s a good reason why the Oscar statuette is gold; there are no silver medals here, just winners and losers.

☆ Goldman Sachs' investor day led to more questions than answers
▼ + stars: | 2023-03-01 | by ( Dan Defrancesco | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +6 min

David Solomon at Goldman Sachs' 2023 investor day. All eyes were on Goldman Sachs yesterday as the bank held its second-ever investor day. The biggest news of the day was Solomon, along with other key executives, acknowledging the bank was exploring "strategic alternatives" for its consumer business. Hinting at "strategic alternatives" was something people would want to hear more about. And click here to read more about Goldman exploring "strategic alternatives" for its consumer biz.

☆ I raised 2 successful CEOs and a doctor. Here’s the parenting style that turns kids into narcissists
▼ + stars: | 2023-02-04 | by ( Esther Wojcicki | ) www.cnbc.com time to read: +2 min

A lot of parents today think the best way to educate kids is to be in total control. This is the foundation of "helicopter parenting," a very involved parenting style in which kids have little or no control of their daily activities. Studies have indicated that kids with helicopter parents who have high expectations for academic performance, or who overreacted when they make a mistake, tend to be more self-critical, anxious and vulnerable. But my biggest problem with helicopter parenting? And if their kids fail, they fail as well.

☆ Fact Check-Altered photo of two men with a pride flag
▼ + stars: | 2023-02-03 | by ( Reuters Fact Check | ) www.reuters.com time to read: +1 min

A photograph of two men holding a rainbow flag at a pride celebration in Paris has been altered to include two children. At this point, it’s about saying NO to freaks, perverts, narcissists and pedophiles!”Other examples can be seen (here) and (here). The image shows two men wearing harnesses with one child between them holding a small pride flag and another sitting on the shoulders of the man on the left. However, a high resolution version visible (here) shows a French flag in the distance on the left. A search on TinEye, a image search tool, (here) revealed that the earliest instance of the original photograph was posted in a now-deleted blog in 2008 (here ).

☆ Are jerks more likely to get ahead at work?
▼ + stars: | 2023-01-23 | by ( Aki Ito | ) www.businessinsider.com time to read: +10 min

Even worse, all the cutthroat role models we're surrounded by at work make us hesitant about being nice ourselves. In the social sciences, the technical term for jerks — those who are combative, selfish, and manipulative — is "disagreeable." Call this the jerk way. All in all, being a jerk doesn't help you get ahead — but it also doesn't hurt. Sutton's no-asshole rule has become widely adopted, and businesses like Atlassian have overhauled their performance reviews in part to ensure that "brilliant jerks" can't get ahead.

☆ Happy New Year! In 2023 kick out Trump, Elon Musk, Kanye and Depp
▼ + stars: | 2023-01-01 | by ( Lynn Stuart Parramore | Lynn Stuart Parramore Is A Cultural Historian Who Studies The Intersection Of Culture | Psychology | ) www.nbcnews.com time to read: +9 min

Though in far different fields, men like Ye (formerly known as Kanye West), Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Johnny Depp and Sam Bankman-Fried will forever be linked by this ignominious characteristic. Over the past 12 interminable months, America has witnessed the rantings of Hitler-loving Ye; Musk’s edgelord trolling on his new plaything, Twitter; Depp and his toxic TikTok fanboys; and Trump being Trump on any given day. While seemingly not vain like Ye or Depp or openly thuggish like Trump and Musk, he nonetheless exhibits traits that point to something sinister behind the “just-a-regular-dude” persona. Trump seems to be losing ground, and Republicans on the House Judiciary Committee finally took down their “Kanye. Musk asked Twitter users whether he should step down as CEO, and they voted “yes.”Unfortunately, until we address roots causes, there will always be another blustering bully, another Trump, another Ye.

Search resuls for: "narcissists"

25 mentions found